1. Think about four or five core values you have as a human being. These are values that drive you – values from the heart and soul. The things that most motivate you as a human being. I’m including a list of some examples, but don’t feel confined to these:

 

Love

Freedom

Family

Expansion

Spiritual Exploration

Truth

Hard Work

Stability/Security

Routine

Spontaneity

Children

Animals

Nature

Creativity

Music

Writing

Art

Building Businesses/Entrepreneurial Sprit

Financial Abundance

Luxury

Marriage

Friends

Sports

Fun

Joy

Laughter

Communication

Service to the World

Personal, Self-Improvement

 

Take some time to complete these answers before you move on to the next question.

 

2. Now, think of how you’d like each of the values you chose to show up in your romantic relationship. How do you see each of those values best being embodied in your relationship?

 

3. After hearing your partners values, do you have any questions for them? Are there any areas you see potential challenges? Any areas that you didn’t realize were aligned with your own values? Any ideas on how you can better integrate both of your sets of values into your life so that you both live the type of lifestyle you need?

 

4. For this question, try not to think of your current relationship, but rather, think honestly about what you need in a partnership. If you had to come up with 5-7 standards for a healthy, happy relationship qualities that you require in a partnership, what would they be?

 

5. After hearing your partners standards, do you have any questions for them?

 

6. Where is the one area in your relationship you feel most vulnerable?

 

7. Is there any way you can feel less vulnerable (more secure) in this area?

 

8. Are there any hidden thoughts, feelings, or secrets that you haven’t shared with your partner that you think would be appropriate to share at this time, to bring you closer, or bring your partner to a better understanding of who you are?

 

9. Is there anything you’d like to know about your partner that you haven’t explored with them?

 

10. If there was one thing you could wish for your relationship, what would it be?